Happiness is a skill

Recently I watched “Happy” a documentary that reminded me of a lot of joyful and wonderful memories and feelings. I was told by my family that family was important and comes first, but it wasn’t until I lived in Los Banos (age six to eleven), where I was taught by the community that family is the most important thing, and family isn’t necessarily in your DNA. As a child I appreciated and looked forward to the traditions in the community, and the traditions I learned from friends and neighbors. Actions are louder than words…
Going back to “Happy” I learned happiness as a skill and the formula for happiness is not the same for everyone. Makes sense right!?! It is actually very simple, since the things we love and enjoy doing are the building blocks for a happy life! It all made sense to me and thoughts I’ve had on numerous occasions. Building blocks to happiness… Get out and play! Think back to your childhood and what you did for “play”. Would you enjoy doing that? I sure the hell know I’m not going to be jumping on tractor tire tubes anytime soon, but a bike ride, skiing, or recently when I tried stand up paddle boarding would be a hell yes!!! Get out and enjoy new experiences! As adults we have a tendency to stay in our comfort zone. Get out and enjoy a new experience. You may enjoy hiking, try another trail, go dancing or take a class, take a Pilates class. Spend quality time with family and friends! Enjoy a great dinner along with quality conversation, play board or card games, go for a walk and engage in quality conversation. Do something that is meaningful to you. Volunteer your time at an establishment that has meaning to you, bring someone who isn’t feeling well meals so they can enjoy nourishing food and focus on self care, or help someone out with childcare if it is meaningful to you! Appreciate what you have, rather than focusing on what you don’t have. A few years ago while going through my divorce I could have easily slipped into what I didn’t have, but a friend who is family said early on in my separation think of what you do have and the stepping stones you are taking to get you where you intend to be. I could have easily gone down that path thinking we’re homeless, I don’t have a job, I don’t have money, etc. Don’t get me wrong there were moments, but I could feel a mental shift when I thought we have a place to live and my (new) job is a stepping stone to the next place in my life. These are the things that make us happy and they’re free – play, new experiences, family, friends, doing something meaningful to you. The more happiness you have, the more everyone has!!!